[give_form id="19690"]

Ask The Doc: I’m Too Embarrassed To Ask My Doctor About Kegels

QUESTION:
I’VE BEEN HAVING URINARY LEAKAGE AND MY DOCTOR RECOMMENDED THAT I PERFORM PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES TO STRENGTHEN MY PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES. THE ONLY PROBLEM IS, I WAS TOO EMBARRASSED TO ASK HIM HOW TO DO THEM! I KNOW THAT SOUNDS SILLY, BUT NOW I’M CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT I SHOULD BE DOING. PLEASE HELP!

ANSWER:

Don’t worry! It’s not as complicated as you may think. Pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegel exercises, are some of the easiest, most natural, and most effective ways to control urinary incontinence.

What’s even better is that anyone can do them, regardless of age or physical fitness. They’re great for helping with a whole range of conditions, too, including stress incontinence, urge incontinence, and overactive bladder. You don’t need any equipment, and you can do them anywhere. Need another reason to start doing your Kegels today? How about this: they may even help you in the bedroom – stronger pelvic floor muscles contract more firmly during orgasm!

Here’s how you can get started in three simple steps:

STEP 1

Pretend you’re trying to stop the flow of urine by pulling in and squeezing your pee muscles.

STEP 2

Hold for 10 seconds, rest for 10 seconds.

STEP 3

Repeat 4 sets of 10 contractions every day for at least 3 weeks and for up to 6 weeks. Like any other muscle in your body, it takes time to build and strengthen. Once you get the hang of it, make doing your Kegels an ordinary part of your daily routine.

For a more complete guide on how to do kegels, visit our guide here. You can also sign up for NAFC’s 6-Week Guide To Pelvic Floor Health, which provides a plethora of information about how to strengthen your pelvic floor, and will walk you through weekly exercises to do to help you improve. And, NAFC’s Pelvic Health Center has lots more articles and tips on how to keep your pelvic floor healthy, and tools you can use to address symptoms.

There’s something else in your question that I wanted to address, though: Your comment about being too embarrassed to ask your doctor questions. This is something that we see all too often in the incontinence field. So many patients tend to be uncomfortable discussing their conditions, and for good reason – after all, we’ve been taught all our lives that going to the bathroom is something deeply personal, and that type of lifelong conditioning is hard to overcome.

However, for the sake of your health and your quality of life, you can feel free to leave your embarrassment at the door. After all, this is what we do for a living – all day, every day, we help patients understand that what they have is a real medical condition and that there are real, effective therapies to help them. There’s no judgment on our part – in fact, nobody understands better than we do that incontinence isn’t a personal failing and that you’re not to blame for your condition. We’re here for no other reason than to help you – you just have to let us!

 

Want more Help With Kegels? Learn How To Do Them In This Video!

Sources:
https://www.webmd.com/urinary-incontinence-oab/oab-21/urinary-incontinence-kegel-exercises-for-pelvic-muscles

AskTheDoc logo
The NAFC Ask The Doc series provides answers to some of our reader’s most common questions from a group of experts in the fields of urology, pelvic floor health, bowel health, and absorbent products. Do you have a question you’d like answered? Click here to Ask The Doc!

Comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Related Articles

An older couple walks hand in hand on a forest path, smiling at each other. Sunlight filters through green trees, creating a peaceful, natural setting. Thanks to reliable bladder leak pads, they enjoy their stroll with confidence and comfort.

Ask The Expert: Can You Live Without a Bladder?

Are you or someone you love scheduled for bladder removal surgery (cystectomy)? While it can be a surprise to find out you’ll need a cystectomy, whether partial or radical, know that you aren’t alone. 

In fact, bladder cancer is listed among the top 10 most diagnosed cancers worldwide.

We sat down with Aleece Fosnight, MSPAS, PA-C, CSC, CSE, IF, MSCP, HAES, to ask whether you can live without a bladder, how long you can live without one, why you might need a cystectomy, and more. 

A confident woman in a suit sits at a desk, embodying the role of a health advocate, with text about a podcast offering tips for managing urinary incontinence at work. The Life Without Leaks podcast logo and Listen Now message are also visible.

Showing incontinence who’s the boss in the workplace

Managing urinary incontinence is challenging enough, but bladder leaks, sudden urgency and frequent trips to the restroom can be especially stressful when you’re trying to get through a busy workday.

In this episode, we share practical strategies for managing bladder symptoms on the job, whether you’re commuting to an office, sitting through a long meeting, working from home or navigating a packed schedule. We’ll talk about bladder training and bathroom planning, hydration and potential bladder triggers, keeping a bladder diary, preparing for unexpected leaks, choosing incontinence products, staying active and more.

A group of six smiling adults takes a selfie outdoors in a grassy area, with trees and a road in the background. Everyone appears happy and relaxed, enjoying each other’s company—there’s no sign anyone is worried about a UTI, just laughter and good times shared among friends.

Why Bladder Health Matters More as We Age

Aging and the Bladder: What Changes?
As we grow older, the urinary system naturally undergoes changes that can affect bladder function.
Common age-related changes include:
Reduced bladder capacity
Increased bladder sensitivity
Changes in pelvic floor muscle strength
Hormonal changes, particularly after menopause
Enlarged prostate in men
Increased prevalence of chronic conditions such as diabetes, stroke, and neurological disorders
These changes can contribute to symptoms such as:
Urinary urgency
Frequent urination
Overactive bladder (OAB)
Urinary incontinence
Nocturia (waking at night to urinate)
While these symptoms become more common with age, they should never be viewed as something people simply have to live with.
The Hidden Connection Between Bladder Problems and Falls
One of the most overlooked consequences of bladder symptoms in older adults is an increased risk of falling.
Many falls occur during urgent trips to the bathroom, particularly at night. An individual may wake suddenly with a strong urge to urinate, rush through a dark room, become dizzy when standing, or trip over furniture, rugs, or other obstacles.
Research has shown that urinary urgency, frequency, and nocturia are associated with a higher risk of falls and fractures in older adults.
For seniors, a fall can have life-changing consequences, including:
Broken bones
Head injuries
Hospitalization
Loss of independence
Reduced mobility
Increased risk of future falls
In many cases, addressing bladder symptoms can be an important part of a comprehensive fall-prevention strategy.
How Nocturia Impacts Healthy Aging
Waking multiple times each night to urinate is more than a sleep disturbance.
Nocturia can contribute to:
Daytime fatigue
Reduced concentration
Memory difficulties
Mood changes
Increased fall risk
Lower overall quality of life
Older adults who experience frequent nighttime bathroom trips often report feeling less energetic and less able to participate in activities they enjoy.
Protecting sleep is an important part of protecting overall health.
The Emotional Impact of Bladder Leaks
Many older adults quietly manage bladder leakage without discussing it with family members or healthcare providers.
Unfortunately, untreated bladder symptoms can lead to:
Social withdrawal
Anxiety
Depression
Reduced physical activity
Fear of leaving home
Loss of confidence
Some people stop exercising, traveling, attending social events, or spending time with friends because they worry about finding a bathroom or experiencing leakage in public.
The result can be a cycle of isolation that negatively affects both physical and mental health.
Healthy Aging Includes Bladder Health
The good news is that many bladder conditions can be improved or successfully managed.
Treatment options may include:
Pelvic Floor Muscle Training
Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles can help improve bladder control and reduce leakage.
Bladder Training
Scheduled voiding and urge-suppression techniques may help reduce urgency and frequency.
Lifestyle Modifications
Small changes can make a meaningful difference, including:
Managing constipation
Maintaining a healthy weight
Limiting bladder irritants when appropriate
Staying physically active
Monitoring fluid intake patterns
Medical Treatments
Depending on the cause of symptoms, treatment options may include:
Medications
Neuromodulation therapies
Vaginal estrogen for postmenopausal women
Prostate treatments for men
Surgical interventions in select cases
Fall Prevention Tips for Older Adults with Bladder Symptoms
If urgency or nighttime bathroom trips are a concern, consider these safety measures:
Keep pathways clear of clutter
Use nightlights between the bedroom and bathroom
Wear supportive, non-slip footwear
Install grab bars when appropriate
Rise slowly from bed to avoid dizziness
Discuss medications with your healthcare provider
Seek evaluation for persistent bladder symptoms
Addressing both bladder health and home safety can significantly reduce fall risk.
A Conversation Worth Having
Too often, people assume bladder leakage is simply the price of getting older. The reality is that while bladder problems become more common with age, they are not an inevitable part of aging.
National Senior Citizens Day reminds us that healthy aging means more than managing chronic diseases—it means preserving independence, confidence, mobility, and quality of life.
If bladder symptoms are interfering with sleep, daily activities, or peace of mind, don’t ignore them. Talk with a healthcare provider and explore your options. Effective treatments and management strategies are available.
Because aging well isn’t just about adding years to life—it’s about adding life to those years.

An older couple walks hand in hand on a forest path, smiling at each other. Sunlight filters through green trees, creating a peaceful, natural setting. Thanks to reliable bladder leak pads, they enjoy their stroll with confidence and comfort.

Ask The Expert: Can You Live Without a Bladder?

Are you or someone you love scheduled for bladder removal surgery (cystectomy)? While it can be a surprise to find out you’ll need a cystectomy, whether partial or radical, know that you aren’t alone. 

In fact, bladder cancer is listed among the top 10 most diagnosed cancers worldwide.

We sat down with Aleece Fosnight, MSPAS, PA-C, CSC, CSE, IF, MSCP, HAES, to ask whether you can live without a bladder, how long you can live without one, why you might need a cystectomy, and more.