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How To Relax Your Pelvic Floor

Sure, you know all about Kegels and the importance of strengthening the pelvic floor. But did you know that it’s just as important to know how to relax the pelvic floor? Keep reading for why this is such an important concept and learn how to do it. 


The pelvic floor is a web of muscles that acts as a sling, supporting your bladder, bowel, and uterus. It is responsible for helping you control your bladder and bowel, and also plays a role in sexual intercourse. Many women experience pelvic floor issues, such as incontinence, as a result of childbirth, obesity, chronic constipation, or other strains put on the pelvic floor. Often, a weakening of the pelvic floor causes these issues, but did you know that having a pelvic floor that is too tense can also create problems? Incontinence, trouble emptying your bladder, and even pain during sex can be signs of a pelvic floor that is too tense.

Luckily, pelvic floor tension is a problem that you can do something about. Below are some simple exercises that may help you to relax your pelvic floor muscles. These can all be done in your home, discreetly, and with no equipment necessary.

Note: It is always recommended to consult a pelvic floor physical therapist prior to performing exercises related to the pelvic floor. A physical therapist can provide you with a proper diagnosis and put you on a custom treatment plan just for you! Find a physical therapist in your area here!


The diaphragm works in synergy with the pelvic floor and helps to promote muscle relaxation. This is important for decreasing pain and promoting optimal muscle function.

  1. Place one hand on your chest and another hand on your belly, just below your rib cage.
  2. Take a deep breath in to the count of three, and then exhale to the count of four.
  3. When you inhale, your pelvic floor relaxes, and as you exhale, your pelvic floor returns to its resting state.
  4. Practice this breathing for 5-10 minutes each day.

Note: You’ll know that you are using your diaphragm correctly if you feel the hand on your belly rise and fall.




All of the following positions are great for practicing diaphragmatic breathing!


  1. Lie on your back.
  2. Open your knees wider than your chest and bring them up towards your armpits. You may hold your legs with your arms behind your knees or at your ankles, but try to keep your ankles over your knees.
  3. You can either hold this position or gently rock on your back from side to side
Happy Baby Pose
Child's Pose


  1. Start on your hands and knees.
  2. Spread your knees wide apart while keeping your big toes touching.
  3. Gently bow forward, moving your torso downwards, between your thighs. Keep your arms stretched out long and in front of you.


  1. Lie on your back with the soles of your feet together and knees out to the sides.
  2. This should be a relaxing position. If you feel a pulling along your inner thighs or in your pubic bones, place pillows under your knees for support.
Adductor Stretch
Piriformis Stretch


  1. Lie on your back with your knees bent.
  2. Place your left ankle on your right knee, like a figure four.
  3. Pull your right thigh toward your chest to feel a stretch on the outside of your left hip.
  4. Hold for 30 seconds, and then repeat on the other side.

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8 Responses

  1. Have OAB and difficulty emptying bladder. Reading from your site I expect that I have tightness in pelvic floor. Can this also affect buildup in feet and ankles? I’ve been on Testosterone injections for 10+ years as my pituitary gland doesn’t function. HELP? I’ve been doing Kegels which I gather is a negative. Have recent lower back pain as well.

  2. Hi, I’ve been having OAB problems for years. Only those who suffer from it know what a difficult condition it is to live with. I would love to try your 6-week program please.

  3. I have a very weak pelvic floor. ( 1 out of 5). How can I strengthen without kegels. I have problems doing them.

  4. Is it normal to have an tense Pelvic floor muscle throughout the day. At work, just doing Daily stuff like making dinner, cleaning the house and stuff. As you do this you often tighten the core (and use many more muscles Ofc), and so you probably unconsciously tighten the pelvic floor muscles too ? I just started noticeing, and i dont know if its a problem i have or that i just can’t stop thinking about it so therefor i can’t relax the mucles…

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