I’m a 48-year-old man, and I wear adult absorbent briefs. Every day, every night. The problem started when I was around 40. I had always had some nighttime bedwetting issues, but they were rare and something I managed for most of my life with waterproof bedding. No Longer Mind Wearing Adult Diapers.
But after I turned 40, I noticed I was having more and more frequent episodes at night. I tried wearing absorbent pads, but they still leaked, causing me to have to change my bed sheets almost 4 times a week. Then the problem started happening during the day – I just couldn’t hold it in long enough to make it to the bathroom.
I saw three doctors, and none of them could find a specific diagnosis for me to explain why I was having this problem. I spent at least a year in denial – foregoing protection because I was embarrassed, but running to the bathroom more often than I wanted. I brought extra clothes with me to work and to social functions “just in case”, and soon, started to limit outings as much as I could because I couldn’t face the prospect of having an accident in front of my family and friends.
I finally realized that if I wanted any semblance of a normal life, I needed to use protection. I did my research and tried out several types of absorbent products to find something that worked for me. (Turns out I use absorbent briefs for day and night, although my nighttime briefs are thicker for extra protection.)
Why I No Longer Mind Wearing Adult Diapers?
It used to bother me that I had to wear “diapers” but now, I don’t think about it at all. I’d rather know I am protected vs. have an accident in public. If anything, I feel more confident wearing a product, because I know that I’m not going to experience a leak and can get back to living a normal life.
If you struggle with bladder leakage, just bite the bullet and find a product that works for you. In the end, you’ll be so relieved to know that “you’re covered”, and most people won’t even know you are wearing extra protection.
Mike W., Pensacola, FL
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I’d wear diapers more often if I had someone willing to help me with diapering, diaper changes, and laundry. I’m physically able-bodied, I’m mentally aware that I need to pee and poop. The problem is that I can’t always make it to the toilet when I need to relieve myself. I could be driving somewhere and I need to pee, but I’m reluctant to pull over to use a public rest stop to use the toilet.
Hi everyone,
I am a 43 year old male and I have been wearing diapers all my life due to a brain injury I suffered as a child. When I was just 21 months old, I had a brain tumor. I had to have Radiation and Chemotherapy treatments for 5 years after the doctors were able to remove it successfully. I struggled with many of my daily functions. One limitation I struggle with is the ability to control my bladder.
I wear a diaper with a moderate absorbency diaper during the day but I have to change about 3 times during the course of the day. At night I have to wear a much thicker diaper so that I can get a good nights sleep otherwise I have to get up every half hour to go to the bathroom.
I fell like a big baby having to wear diapers and plastic pants to bed but it is the only way I can keep my bed and myself dry. I find some relief in being able to discuss it openly in a forum such as this one.
I’m a 35 year old and I’ve had a similar issue. I tried going to the doctor but gave up after spending $600 peeing into cups for tests.
I’m not quite at full time yet, I can still manage with pads at work, but it’s only getting worse and I’m seriously considering if I will switch to full time use at some point.
Knowing my situation isn’t unique is comforting. Thank you.
This post resonates with me as well. At age 56, I’ve had surge incontinence for virtually all of my adult life. I have worn adult diapers when needed since late 1998, and this has allowed me to live a happy, full life. I have gone through periods in which I limit the use of protection as much as I can, but the risks of an accident are substantial if I can’t easily use a bathroom every thirty minutes. This is obviously impractical in many settings away from the home. And since I teach, I absolutely could not do my job properly without wearing diapers. I have tried popping out of class to use a nearby restroom, but this is a very risky approach.
So how do I feel about adult diapers? Sometimes I do get embarrassed, but I mostly feel secure and protected. After all these years, they are also usually comfortable. I have found high capacity diapers that work well for me, and they make me feel safe. (While the most absorbent briefs are somewhat bulky, they are not easily detected under my clothes.) At this point, following some very stressful moments last year, I will not leave the house without wearing a diaper.
El problema no es hacerse pipi encima. El problema es el miedo de lo que piensan o dicen los demas. Hace decadas las personas con discapacidad tenian igualmente sentimientos de verguenza y culpa pero hemos avanzado mucho. Sin embargo en la inconteniencia parece que no hemos avanzado nada. Creo que es debido a que los que tenemos este problema seguimos ocultandolo por todos los medios. Es hora de salir del armario y revindicar la normalidad de usar un pañal como elemento de salud. Como accesorio limpio y higienico. Debemos de hacer camapañas en las que salimos todos los que tenemos esta dificultad para hablar de nuestras vivencias y normalizar algo que es lo más normal del mundo.
Tengo 38 años diabetica tipo 1. Llevo varios días que el pis se me sale y me he orinado encima. Estoy en aceptación de uso de pañal. Durante el día uso unas toallas gruesas y de noche uso pañal para poder dormir mejor. Hay veces que me da tiempo llegar al baño y otra veces no por lo cual me veo obligada a usarlos.
Just an update. After some advise that sounded like it was sound I gave it a try. Condom catheters have good and not some good sides. I slept two nights using one and it functionally worked well. I tend to be kind of active when I sleep and once each night I woke up because of hose “challenges”. I also tried them a couple of days and found bag support and again hose issues were somewhat troublesome even though no leaks and just emptying the bag was all that was necessary. This process might be advisable if you’ve never had a record of being very comfortable living diapered 24/7. After those two days All I kept thinking haw easy it is to put on a quality disposable with a booster and usually going 12 hours not even thinking about it. At night putting on my pin on cloth diaper with plastic pants was pretty simple and just part of my program. I can’t really think about changing my routine, at this point.
DIAPERS ARE just another form of under pants only with better protection for us all that have urinary problems and wearing the righ clothes no one would know you were ever wearing a diaper or pull ups and beside that they ary way much better then wearing the old style cloth diapers od the fidties&sixties era and if you want extra protection then just slip ,on a pair of plastis pants which now days are made with material that is not so noices and acan not be detected under your clothes.I know this because i also wear them for extra protection out of the house and while shopping;Ive been wearing them now for over 45 yrs’ and enjoy wearing them even more at night when they are nice and warm from the dryer’I HOPE THIS WILL HELP SOME OF YOU WITH HAVING TO WEAR THEM AND GOOD LUCK
My experience with incontinence as an adult started when I turned 30 in 2010, and although I went to the doctors they found no physical reason why I was wetting myself other than I had an over active bladder.
I was prescribed with meds for this however I was allergic to them so stopped because of this and so I choose to return to wearing nappies/diapers, something that I haven’t done since I was a child many decades previously, although granted when I was a child I didn’t have a choice.
Nowerdays I wear diapers most nights and if Iam snoozing during the day to prevent any potentially embarrassing situations and for reasons of psychological comfort aka regression due to the fact that I didn’t have a good childhood post potty training because of bullying at pre school and later on at primary school.
Add to this I suffered from epilepsy in my adolescent years when I was 12-13 in 1992/1993 which I suspect damaged the nerves controlling my bladder which lead to uncontrollable bladder leaks akavbed wetting.
At first I have to admit that I was ashamed and highly embarrassed to admit that I had to go back to wearing diapers like a baby/toddler again,
But no puns intended over time I got used to wearing them and in the process rediscovered why I liked them so much in my earlier years, thankfully at this time I don’t have to wear diapers 24/7,
However given the fact that as I age my bladder issues aren’t going away so I believe that it’s only a matter of time until I am back at square one so to speak of.
And I am fully ready to embrace that lifestyle once it happens as I will try to get a care provider/nanny who will look after my needs as a adult baby should this happen and obviously I will have all the supplies to accommodate this including diapers and adult sized baby furniture.
However that’s getting away from the subject at hand, as a diaper wearing adult yes there are times when I look & feel more like an over-grown toddler rather than a man in his 40’s as I am 43 at the time of this post.
However I feel that I made the right choice when deciding how to deal with my ittimitent bladder issues as I am completely comfortable with wearing diapers and I have absolutely no problems with this fact what so ever.
I am currently using Better Dry and XP5000 diapers during the day. I have also added a diaper doubler which extends my diaper a good bit between changes.
T.C.
All a matter of perspective. We with neurogenic bladders have to take steps to live a normal life. You have done that and that’s what’s important. Wearing diapers is just part of who we are. I feel sorry for those that become shut in’s when faced with incontinence. I realize for me it’s been easier because I’ve been a nightly bedwetter my whole life and stressed out constantly regarding my daytime struggles. Once I went 24/7 all the daytime stress vanished and I was truly relieved. Traveling is challenging having to have a separate suitcase just for diapers and trying to get the most out of a quality disposable during the day can lead to some minor leaking. Other than that it’s just a small part of who I am. I don’t try to hide it and am open to sharing this condition when situations arise. I’ve always found when I’m just matter of fact about it, others are pretty casual about it as well.
Try being houseless (homeless to most) and manage bladder cancer no restrooms because the drug addicts trashing them got the city maintainable dept. To weld the doors shut, and reduced to a ‘Synthetic Saint’ (Poly John) in the parking lot with a river for running water at 68 yrs. Old. Plagued with so many ailments and disabilities it has been an intense struggle to maintain any dignity. Summer heat has me spraying myself down with a mister often so I can go commando sometimes but getting things washed is problematic. Scheduled for another tumor surgery after 5 of them it’s a wonder I’ve been able to remain discreet hiding out in the Open. IBS-D on top is an added burden, consequently I’m 25 pounds under weight because to eat, drink, and go anywhere is so worrisome I don’t want to. I’m afraid of getting “Disappeared” because a good ‘Soilent Green’ processed cheese food is not in my makeup and I cost the taxpayers a lot of coin yearly. Slowly reduced to plant food are the days of my life.
I’ve been Incotinate for so long I no longer mind being in diapers. Not something I wanted but it is what it is, I’m comfortable with having to be in diapers. If you want any kind of a life than you have to except it. I have no control over my bladder and sometimes lose of my bowel control, I’m in diapers 24/7. Main thing is just finding what works and what’s comfortable to wear. And realize this is the way it has to be.
For me I started needing diapers at age 22 in 1998 for bedwetting. In 2004 I was hospitalized Shunt revision. What should have been simple became six surgeries. It left me with side effect of Neurogenic bladder and over time has resulted in total incontinence. I am in diapers at all times.
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Male 60’s. I’m a very active and fit person still. My wife and I are avid hikers, bicyclists, campers and fish and hunt when possible. We also travel quite regularly.
I’ve always experienced some sort of incontinence. As kid, I was a bed wetter. As a young adult in my later teens and 20’s I found myself leaking at times, so I would use paper towels and tissues in my underwear. When I hit 40 is when I’d have some urge incontinence issues. I injured my back at that time and was also diagnosed with BPH. The chronic prostate problem along with some nerve damage in my back made my wetting condition worsen over the years, so I started wearing pads and guards. When commuting long distance or air travel I’d wear a pull-up or diaper. In my 50,s, I just found it easier and more comfortable to wear a diaper to bed. I will wear them regularly now for necessity, but appreciate the ease and comfort and a better nights sleep.
Most family and friends are aware of my condition which helps alleviate the stigma of wearing a pad or diaper.
There are some high quality products available now on line, much better than what you can purchase at the local stores and pharmacies. They’re more discreet than you think, and people really don’t notice when you are wearing protective products.
Enjoy life, stay comfortable.
I want to bite the bullet to wear diapers again but I’m concerned that I’ll get treated differently. Because the main reason I want to wear again is that I’ve some invisible medical conditions/disabilities that unless you’ve them,know someone who has them like as a best friend type level,and/or live with someone who has them you really can’t understand/get the bigger picture of the day to day life of the individual in question. My uniqueness/challenges/disabilities are semi diagnosed autism,epilepsy from a traumatic brain injury when I was just a toddler,trying to thrive from being a sexual rape survivor as an infant,and having to hide certain aspects of my true self due to my disabilities/uniqueness.
I am a 75 year old woman who about a year ago started to experience nighttime bedwetting issues. After months of denial I finally started wearing overnight protection. It was embarrassing! About a month ago, believing that I was sill in control of my bladder I decided to try to forgo my nighttime diapers. Bad decision! Waking up two nights in a row to wet clothing and a wet bed helps me to understand the need, and the comfort and security of wearing a diaper at night. I’m now more comfortable with that decision. I have also made the difficult decision to wear daytime protection when I know I’ll be away from home for a long time. Wearing an adult diaper in public really bothers me as I feel like everyone can tell but is is better than having the occasional accident.
Thank you so much for sharing I am a 49 year old male now having to wear Adult diapers and honestly it has helped me mentally knowing I would not wake up with wet sheets or pants during the day. Type 2 diabetes even thought under control has really messed up my body
I started out with oab then also picked up ibs.I’ve been diapered for several yrs because of this the stigma was over the top at 1st but like Jim Sheets said above wet pants are a drag.
The one thing that helped me out alot with having to wear diapers, I had a doctor’s appointment and I was having issues with having to wear diapers, my doctor new it, he new that I would not use catheters, I set there upset, the doctor put his hand on my nee and looked me in the eye and said, people wear glasses for a reason if you break your arm you wear a cast on your arm for a reason, he said your situation is no different your wearing a diaper for a reason. More I thought about what he said the more sense it made to me. This comment helped me out with having to be in diapers.
I had a fall off a ladder about 25 feet up on too a concrete floor, I went to the hospital, the doctors had check me out, and was set up to have a MRI done but couldn’t get me in right away, they didn’t want to use a catheter on me because they didn’t know how much damage was done. Next thing I know the nurse is coming in my room with a diaper in her hand, she explained to me why she was going to put it on me I was shocked whiled I lied there getting a diaper put on. This went on for 3 days and every 4 hours they would come in and check me out to see if I was wet. My MRI come back and I have pelvic floor and nerve damage. I’ve been in diapers for the last 20 years. Main thing was finding what works for me, I have no control over my bladder and sometimes lose of my bowel control. I’ve found what works for me years ago, and become comfortable with having to be in diapers.
With MS often comes with incontinence issues. I decided early on to take the same pattern of thinking I’d rather be wearing a diaper than wet pants.
After many years of looking for and trying every adult diaper I could find, Abena makes a good product, however I have gotten to really like north shore care, they let you sample before you buy. They have a Megamax brief that has never failed me even on very bad days, where mobility issues can limit changes.
Online, Abena m4 are good, better dry are excellent. Overnight is tough since I’ve not had any luck with disposables. I stick to thick pin on diapers with good fitting plastic pants
I wanted to purchase an adult diaper for my Grandpa who has been facing heavy incontinence issue lately. Just wanted to know as to which type of adult diaper would be most effective for heavy flow.
I’m in my 60’s now but pretty much have the same attitude about diapers. Lifelong bedwetter that has worn cloth diapers with plastic pants pretty much forever. Always struggled during the day also and had to go 15+ times a day and would still have to hide wet spots on my pants. I wore training type pants with plastic pants during the day until my teens and then just struggled. Doctors always said I would outgrow it. I hated going to doctors and having to tell nurses and doctors about my nightly bedwetting and daytime struggles. I was given meds, exercises, bedwetting alarms, and tried pretty much everything with no success. In my early 30’s I finally had a complete urodynamic study done and was diagnosed with a neurogenic bladder which the dr. Said made my bladder work like a babies in that my brain signals were not connecting with my bladder. This explained why I wet at night and struggled so much during the day. I decided it was silly to keep trying to fight it and added quality disposables to use during the day. My stress level went down and self confidence went straight up. I know why this condition is what it is and my comfort level with 24/7 diapers is excellent. I don’t hide from it and even share the information with family and friends when it becomes necessary. If I’m sharing a hotel room with a friend I let them know. When I’m ever sleeping at a relatives or friends house I let them know because I need to protect bedding and mattresses from leaks. I always let hotels know and most times they will accommodate and already have plastic protection on the bed. I always bring my own for the times the request isn’t fulfilled and I put one on the bed myself. During the day I will have occasional leaks but those are usually my fault as I just wait too long to change diapers.
I understand how hard it is to adjust to. Being a teenage boy bedwetting nightly and fearing anyone finding out was really tough. Looking back on it however the few friends I had that found out were pretty cool about it. I was discovered in college and had a great group of friends that nicknamed me puddles in a very light hearted manner. Whenever someone would ask them and me directly one of my friends would jump in and say because he wets his bed, maturely and matter of factly, and no one ever made a big deal out of it. So in short we carry all the pressure and stress around, mostly inside us, and you might find it’s quite a minor point to anyone else.
I’m 47 yrs old and my bladder control has always been iffy at best. If I can be near a toilet, I can usually make it in a timely manner, and I’m in good shape. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve needed to pee, but I’m nowhere near a toilet when I desperately need to pee.
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