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Don’t Be Embarrassed About Having Incontinence – Chad’s Story

My incontinence started right around when I turned 50. Things began slowly – a few leaks every now and then, mostly at night. The first time it happened, I woke up in the morning to find the bed sheets were completely wet. I didn’t think much of it and wrote it off as an accident. But then it happened again a week or so later. I started to realize that it might be a bigger issue than I first thought.

To help manage things, I bought some men’s Depends to wear at night. The results weren’t what I was hoping for. They leaked through, which is how I came to realize that I was actually peeing a lot more than I thought I was. So I went online and learned that for heavy incontinence, pull-up briefs don’t work very well because they tend to sag and leak. So I did some research and found that adult diapers with tabs work best. I ordered ConfiDry 24/7 plastic-backed diapers with tabs, and that was the end of any leakage for me. (Learn more about finding the right absorbent product here.)

But it wasn’t the end of all my incontinence challenges. One evening I was at my girlfriend’s house and was going to spend the night. I figured that I would just discreetly put the diaper on under my shorts and go to bed. I waited until after she fell asleep on the couch to start putting on my diaper, and wouldn’t you know it, just as I stood up, there she was, standing at the door with a big “what are you doing?!” look on her face. I explained to her my situation, and I can’t tell you how relieved I was to see that she wasn’t upset at all by the fact I had to wear a diaper to bed. In fact, she was more upset that I didn’t tell her sooner!

Not long after, she convinced me to schedule an appointment with a urologist – she was concerned that there might be a more serious medical issue at play. After my first visit, the doctor gave me some overactive bladder pills to take at night. In the beginning, they didn’t work particularly well, and I was still wetting my diaper, though not as much as before.

On my next visit, the doctor encouraged me to give them some time, and he gave me a five-week supply. I continued taking the pills and went two weeks without wetting in my diaper at all. I figured that the pills has solved my problem, so I stopped wearing diapers altogether. Big mistake. After about a week had gone by, I woke up one morning to find that my sheets were once again completely wet. It’s a good thing that I had been using a form-fitting plastic sheet to protect the bed!

After that episode, I went back to wearing diapers every night. As it turns out, even with the medication, I would still wet myself every now and then. I kept track of how often it happened, and when I saw my doctor again, he reviewed my chart, listened to my symptoms, and gave me a six-week supply of a new medication to treat OAB.

The very next morning, my diaper was full. I wasn’t disappointed like I was with the first pills I had tried, because those had taken some time to kick in, so I figured I’ll give these a shot to see if they make a bigger difference. If not, I’m confident there will be other treatments worth trying, too.

The point of this story is that there’s no reason to be embarrassed by nighttime incontinence or having to wear protection to prevent bedwetting. My journey continues, and I won’t be giving up on seeking treatment. For now, wearing a diaper to bed is just a part of the ordinary routine, and I don’t feel like it’s a hardship at all. I hope this story helps others come to terms with their own conditions and to actively seek out their own treatment path – there’s definitely help out there if you just look for it.



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